Fear is why you read this article. I guess that you have an upcoming event at which to speak. Or your job or schooling requires you to get in front of people regularly. Each time this happens, your stomach drops, you begin to sweat, and you want to throw up.
You don’t have to be afraid anymore. This article can help you. You will learn seven strategies you can begin today.
Number 7: Control your emotions
As you imagine the worst, you will learn to deal with those emotions in practice before you experience them at the moment. You will be nervous when you speak, that is a good thing which I will explain in other Strategy. Your anxiety will be present. The goal is to prepare yourself to be calm and collected for when the time comes.
Learn to control your emotions so that they don’t control you
To learn this ability, you must get your emotions worked up. That sounds awful. Yes, I experience pushback from clients when I teach this strategy. The whole reason they hire me is so they won’t be anxious when they speak. Little do they realize that one key approach to reducing anxiety when they speak is to experience that anxiety beforehand!
Number 6: Mental and physical preparation
You need to practice giving the speech, but you also need to practice the emotional challenge of the speech. You need to grasp this strategy. Mental, along with physical preparation, will help you. Before you get up in front of people, imagine their faces. Imagine how you will feel. Imagine that you forget your notes. Imagine you say, like I did, that a woman in the audience is old. Imagine discovering your zipper is down, or your skirt is tucked into your underwear. Imagine the worst.
Number 5: Try to create a great content
The content of your speech is the weight you carry. It could be a toast for a wedding, a presentation for your company, or a speech to announce your candidacy for office. Your message is a form of burden.
You should work on creating great content and organizing it so that it flows. There are different books and different theories on how to write your speech.
Number 4: Do i need to be funny
That is a great question. Here is the answer: You are funnier than you realize. I’ve often seen people do a negative metamorphosis when they begin their speech. I see jovial people become stoic; I watch bubbly people transform into perfect robots, I reflect how a casual person takes on a serious demeanor, and so on. The ‘stage’ can do something to people. It can make them act in ways, unlike their usual self. In this metamorphosis, the first thing that is lost is humor.
Number 3: Watch your self
Give a speech to the mirror, to the computer, to your friends, or an actual audience. Then watch yourself.
When you watch yourself, you can see shifts in your speaking. Watching yourself speak is awful. When I first started, I was so embarrassed that I looked like that and said that. Few communicators enjoy listening to themselves. Watching yourself speak is extremely useful. By watching a playback of your speech, you will be able to coach yourself!
Number 2: Do it early: arrive early and prepare early.
Learn the art of doing everything early. Finish all additional preparation first. Think through what props you will need. Get them now. Think through any tech you will need. Order it. Get to the space early. Walk the stage. Check out the room. Test the mic. Do a rehearsal. No matter how small or how big, you want to finish all the preparation early: slides, props, pictures, room setup, tables, booklets, merchandise, food, and print two copies of your notes. Extremely important: Get your speech done ahead of time. Don’t cram.
Number 1: Smile and breathe deeply
Smiling enhances your attractiveness, which increases your confidence. Smiling is a natural antidepressant. The act of smiling improves the way your neural communication functions, and it releases neuropeptides along with dopamine and serotonin. Smiling reduces your blood pressure. Try it! Go to the store and sit at one of those little tables that take your blood pressure. Then smile for a full minute and try again.
There is ample research if you want to dive into how deep breathing can improve multiple areas of life. Do a quick web search, and you will be convinced.
When it comes to speaking, you don’t need to understand all the science; know that it will calm you. Calm people connect on a deeper level than stressed people. For you to communicate with your group, learn the practice of deep breathing.